
The ministry we now call Ancient Pathways Fellowship (APF) started on this wise:


'...if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.' Phil 4:8
" Use wisdom n understanding to rule your home..." Prov 24:3
When you’re the parent of a ‘teen in
transition’, it’s important to find the right
blend of correction, instruction, motivation and praise. Instead of focusing on behaviour you don’t want, praise and reward behaviour you want more of. If your child feels like you’re
always ‘on their back’ instead of ‘on their team’ about how they dress, their friends, their music, etc., they’ll resist you at every turn. The Bible says about parenting: a) ‘Children, obey
your parents’ (Ephesians 6:1 NKJV). b) ‘Don’t exasperate your children by coming down hard on them’ (Ephesians 6:4 TM). Use the carrot
and stick approach. If you’re all ‘stick’ and no ‘carrot’ you’ll provoke them into rebelling, going undercover and cutting off communication. And if you grew up in a home where you were never praised or rewarded, you’ll have to work harder to break the cycle.
Exploding at your teen just teaches them to handle their own anger explosively. Expect to be shocked and be prepared to respond constructively. If you take their mood swings and inconsistencies personally, you’ll end up
reacting in ways you regret. Do you remember your own adolescence and how you felt about your parents’ opinions, tastes and rules? Mark Twain said: ‘When I was fourteen my dad was
so ignorant I could hardly stand to have him around. But when I got to be twenty-one I was astonished at how much the old man had learned in seven years!’ If you’re raising a teen, here are two Scriptures worth remembering: ‘Love never fails’ (1Corinthians 13:8 NKJV).
‘Use wisdom and understanding to establish your home.’
'A thorn in the flesh was given to me, a messenger of Satan to buffet me' 2cor12:7
Paul isn’t referring to the kind of ‘thorn’ you find on rosebushes, but a sharp, pointed stake that inflicts pain. And the word ‘buffet’ means ‘to render blow after blow after blow’. This makes his next statement all the more amazing: ‘I was given the gift of a handicap to keep me in…touch with my limitations…I… begged God to remove it. Three times…then He
told me, “My grace is…all you need. My
strength comes into its own in your weakness.” Once I heard that…I quit focusing on the handicap and began appreciating the
gift…Now I take limitations in stride, and with good cheer…I just let Christ take over!’ (vv.7-10 TM). Paul responded to his thorny situations by doing six things: 1) Admitting
he needed God’s strength.
2) Asking, even
begging, for God’s help.
3) Accepting the
answer when God said, ‘No.’
4) Appreciating it
as ‘a gift’.
5) Acting with confidence and continuing to fulfil his mission.
6) Acknowledging that the problem allowed God to work through him. When the driving force within Paul had been redirected by God, he wrote: ‘I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself for me’ (Galatians 2:20 NIV). Paul’s will had been taken to the cross and crucified. Now he operated in the will of God and no longer questioned the path or the price. That’s the place God wants to bring you to!
Halleluyah! Glory to God!
Credit: Eld Daniel Danquah